Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Ladies, Stand Tall and Stand Together

So I ran across this blog a couple of days ago, which is entitled "Why I Am Personally Offended When A Slut Walks Into The Room"

Through a liberal use of the word "slut" and the application of basic economic principles to dating, the girl who wrote this managed to not only slap herself with a big old "rude, ignorant, moron" sticker (if you even begin to read the comments, you'll see what I mean), but to degrade the entire rest of her gender in the process. 

The post basically berates any woman who has any sort of sex life, and complains about how women have allowed men to reduce them to sex objects... all while bitterly objectifying women and treating sex as a commodity throughout the post. 

As a woman, I just need to say WE NEED TO STOP DOING THIS TO EACH OTHER! 

Are we really all so jealous, bitter, competitive, and insecure that we have to waste our time degrading the women around us? Because guess what girls, that doesn't make you any more attractive. To refer back to a movie we've probably all seen (and one that we clearly didn't learn from, if we're still pulling this crap), calling someone fat doesn't make you any skinner. Calling someone stupid doesn't make you any smarter. 

All it does is make you look bitter. 

So instead of sitting around and ragging on everybody else, calling each other "sluts", "whores" and "bitches" when 90% of the time, the terms don't actually apply and we're just trying to be mean, and then complaining about how no guys ever treat us right, why not actually treat each other the way you want guys to treat us. 

Like we're special, like we're beautiful, and like we're worth respect. 

Yes, some guys will still be total and complete assholes. Believe me when I say I get that. And some girls will still be total bitches too. And yes, some of them will sleep around, and engage in unhealthy activities. 

But why let that have any effect on you? Does it really impact you in any way? 

Ladies, stand up with confidence that you are worth it, and stop working about tearing down everyone around you to make yourself look good by comparison. There's a reason guys think we're crazy - a lot of the time, we are. 

Stop calling each other "sluts". Embrace the fact that some people make different life choices, and the fact that there's nothing wrong with having a healthy sex life. Same goes for the word "whore". If we can't stop treating each other like this, how can we expect men to stop treating us like this? We're sitting here holding ourselves back because we can't get over our stupid disagreements with each other. 

Live and let live, it's as easy as that.

I hope that my point has come across somewhere between the movie references and the overused bold face and italicized font. 


1 comment:

  1. I think I love you. Excellent, excellent post.

    Seriously. Thanks for writing this, Jessica. I hate that so many women are so quick to rip into each other. Often times, it just stems from jealousy, or some reminder of something about themselves that maybve they don't like. (I hate that I just had to use 'they' in that sentence.)

    I do my best to and let live. I mean, what does it do to judge someone else? What would be the point?

    If someone is an ass, or bitchy, it's not based on gender. It's based on personality. I've met a ton of bitchy men. *shakes head*

    Anyway, again, good post.